Diseases & infection symptoms & causes from world traveler & former fitness trainer. Truth about parasites, candida, fungus, infections, itching skin, itchy rash, bed bugs, scratching & torment. Monsters inside of me. Parasites & candida killing you!
Parasites, Candida, Fungus Infection: Monsters Inside of Me, Itching, Itchy Rash, Bed Bugs
Wow! That's a ferocious mouthful sure to turn your stomach at the thought of it!
The truth is if you have a pet in your house, you have 240 times as many parasites in your home and likely your body than a person who does not. Moreover if you have long fingernails, you collect 24 times as many parasites - many of which can live for up to 2 months underneath your fingernails.
As a former personal fitness trainer and nutritional consultant, I know firsthand how often people fail to get results physically because of lack of ability to "exercise" discretion with the fork. Most Americans lift more forks than they do weights.
Ironically and frighteningly, I discovered (what few medical doctors admit or tell you - because they profit from repeat visits, medical testing, and pharmaceutical drugs) and that is parasites, candida, fugus infection and monsters inside eating at us.
As a worldwide minister and professional speaker I have been to over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents where I have seen a lot of suffering people, messed up individuals, and grotesque illnesses. For example throughout India and Africa I saw extreme cases of elephantitis, where people's legs were swollen up like an elephant and had putrid bumps on them. Others had these bumps on their arms, back and neck. Some precious people in Africa had their eyes swollen shut due to infections.
This is what happens if gone untreated. Here in the United States where we have an ongoing battle with obesity and cancer, doctors often put patients through chemotherapy. When a retired military man on my street got cancer, I kindly drove him to the doctor to receive chemo a couple of times.
Yet my heart burned to provide a better cure from within, knowing that harmful radiation weakens the immune system killing off good bacteria (found in acidophilus within yogurt) we need to fight off disease.
Since getting married, my beautiful wife Karla graciously moved from Canada to be with me here in Florida. She had no idea how many bugs and insects were here, neither how hot it gets in the summer. I still remember the first time she freaked out upon seeing a cockroach. Well, when I sat down to watch Animal Planet one night and saw the commercial for Monsters Inside of Me, I immediately knew I wanted to watch the show.
Karla however freaked at the site of the commercials alone and ran out of the room. She had been suffering for nearly 3 years (since she moved from Canada) from itching and what she thought was bed bugs. Well after watching two shows on Animal Planet - "I was Bitten" and "Monsters Inside of Me" I stayed up until 5:00am I was so riveted and reminded of my prior knowledge.
I immediately began to discover what Karla and I (as I will tell later) had wasn't something external, but rather internal. She had thought she was going crazy for a while, always itching at night when she went to bed and having difficulty sleeping. Insomnia however is a part of the reaction in the human nervous system to parasites, candida and fungus infections within the body.
As for myself, I taught high school for a year and increasingly struggled with dry and cracked lips, particularly around the edges of my mouth. Of course this is a bit odd if you think about it seeing how I live in Florida, where there is 100% humidity. I consulted my dermatologist (a nice but sometimes not so knowledgeable man) and he gave me nothing for it. I consulted my health food store and began taking flax seed oil twice a day thinking that would solve the problem - it helped a little but never alleviated the deep cracks in the sides of my mouth. Then a couple months later my dentist gave me a topical antibiotic for the cracks in my mouth saying he thought it was a fungus infection, something his daughter recently had. It worked and revealed a deeper problem!
With all of the sugar we eat and meat (often carrying worms), including cheese, parasites are quite common. Over 85% of the world has some parasites in them (most unknown). The guy on Monsters Inside of Me who nearly died of a brain tumor found when they put the brain tumor under the microscope it had worms in it. This guy had gone to Vietnam in the war years ago and was a Veteran from the U.S. Military. He had malaria in Vietnam. So many doctors didn't know what he had, but eventually they saw the yellow puss oozing out of him and one smart doc realized it was a parasite. Yet after 20 years of damage in his lymphatics, the damage was irreversable.
I tell you the next morning I was taking another round of parasite and candida killers to detox my body, something I do regularly throughout the year. Many illnesses across the world are related to neglect and intruders, monsters, parasites, candida, fungus infections within, and stories just like these.
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You may experience a Herxheimer (‘die-off’) reaction as the dying Candida albicans cells release toxins. To help reduce the discomfort of the ‘die-off’ reaction, drink plenty of water or teas without sugar, take buffered Vitamin C and consume 30-40 grams of well hydrated dietary fiber a day. This protective intervention will minimize the unpleasantness of the ‘Herxheimer Reaction’ by deactivating, absorbing and ridding the body of the toxins from lysed or dead Candida cells.
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www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Surprise Healing, Miracle & Supernatural Manifestation
Healing, miracle & manifestation of God surprise! Only believe & see the glory of God! Reach up to heaven & believe God for your healing, miracle & divine manifestation of power to forever change your situation. Believe God for transformation!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=os6Qmz4suHo
www.PaulFDavis.com / Invite Paul to minister in your city! RevivingNations@yahoo.com / Support welcomed at paypal.com or Dream-Maker Ministries, PO Box 684, Goldenrod, FL 32733 USA.
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www.PaulFDavis.com / Invite Paul to minister in your city! RevivingNations@yahoo.com / Support welcomed at paypal.com or Dream-Maker Ministries, PO Box 684, Goldenrod, FL 32733 USA.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Michael Jackson Dies. King of Pop on Prescription Meds? Michael Jackson death shocks the world.
While working out at the gym tonight I heard on TV Michael Jackson died. What a sad and devastating loss for the Jackson family and the world at large. Such a magnificent performer and person gone in the twinkling of an eye. It just didn't seem right.
Being a former fitness trainer beholding Michael Jackson dance around like lightning, I knew the man's heart had to be strong apart from emotional stress and possible prescription meds (which I speculate he was taking prior to his death). Then when I heard Michael's brother Jermaine Jackson speak to the media on behalf of the family Thursday evening concerning the loss of his brother Michael, I knew something was up.
Jermaine said, “It is believed he suffered cardiac arrest in his home. However, the cause of death is unknown until the results of the autopsy are done.” Having been trained in advanced interrogation the choice of words was cause for concern.
Then when I heard Michael had a doctor living with him, I thought that was a bit odd for a man his age. Yet Michael has always been a bit eccentric. However upon seeing an old interview replayed wherein Michael held a baby on his lap and nervously bounced his knee extremely fast the whole time, I could see this wonderful man whose peformances touched and uplifted the world himself was very troubled and restless within.
The countless facial surgeries were an outward manifestation of the inner turmoil occuring within Michael. Sadly he who gave hope to so many and made people who saw themselves as nobodies believe in themselves, the same man Michael Jackson deeply yearned for unconditional love and affirmation himself. With such extraordinary wealth and influence it is no wonder Michael enjoyed being with animals and children, they who loved Michael for Michael (not what they could get from Michael).
People very close to Michael Jackson reacting with such surprise, it makes you wonder what really was going on.
“I am absolutely devastated at this tragic and unexpected news,” the music producer Quincy Jones said in a statement read by MSNBC. Mr. Jones said Mr. Jackson “had it all — talent, grace, professionalism and dedication.” Mr. Jones added, “I’ve lost my little brother today, and part of my soul has gone with him.”
Berry Gordy, founder of Motown Records who helped turn the Jackson 5 into pop stars, said on CNN.com that he felt sorry “for all of the fans around the world that are so much in love with Michael.”
Mr. Gordy said that Mr. Jackson, as a boy, “always wanted to be the best, and he was willing to work as hard as it took to be that. And we could all see that he was a winner at that age. And I’ve always believed winners are winners long before they win. And picking them out before they win is very easy with a Michael Jackson.”
I feel Cher said it best when talking to Larry King about Michael Jackson. "Michael was touched and had something special from God."
I could't agree more! Unfortunately I feel Michael restled with his manhood, identity, and as he so eloquently sang "the man in the mirror." Yet Michael beautifully looked beyond himself to marvel and amaze us all with his brilliance as a songwriter, his moves as a dancer, his wow factor as a performer, and his boldness to be true to himself no matter what the media or others said.
Michael broke the rock and color barrier, transcending rock and birthing pop. Liberating generations of performers that follow him to be free to express themselves authentically, Michael Jackson's accomplishments musically are legendary.
I only wish he could have lived longer to enjoy the fruit of his labor, see his grandchildren, and rejoice with his family. Michael shall always be loved, his songs cherished, and his presence missed.
Nevertheless let Michael's absence be a reminder to the media to be gracious to celebrities who are also human beings (often inwardly suffering in some personal way as the rest of us who struggle with various challenges of life). Let Michael's sudden death be a reminder to all performers to cultivate their personal life beyond their platform persona. Let Michael's untimely departure remind us all to cherish every moment of the life we have and to live our dreams fully, unapologetically, and wholeheartedly.
Michael you thrilled us with your life and your tragic death alike.
Godspeed my friend.
ps. To be promoted and make your home in heaven after life on earth, there is only one name by which humanity can be saved and taste the afterlife, that is Jesus Christ the life and the resurrection (Acts 1:10-11; 4:12; John 11:25).
www.PaulFDavis.com - worldwide speaker & life-changing author of "Breakthrough For A Broken Heart"
Paul is no stranger to substance abuse, as his mother died prematurely as a result of it. Moreover Paul too knows depression and heartache following his ex-wife's affair which broke his heart, brought him to a personal ground zero, and caused him to take a strong look at the "man in the mirror". Yet Paul found hope and restoration when he looked into the mirror of God's Word which brought transformation within causing him to transcend his pain and win (James 1:22-24).
Some call God Allah, as does Jermaine Jackson. Jesus however is the undisputed Prince of peace. I pray the love, comfort, and goodness of God will be with the Jackson family and friends throughout this difficult time.
Another "king" named Elvis seemingly died in a similar way as Michael. Elvis the son of a minister wrestled within his soul to find peace. Truly peace is not found in a preacher or religion, but in connecting with the Creator of the world and King of the universe. Within the quietness of your own heart, cry out to Jesus right now and invite the Spirit of Christ to comfort and fill you to overflowing.
Invite Paul to speak in your city! RevivingNations@yahoo.com
www.PaulFDavis.com - author of God vs. Religion
Being a former fitness trainer beholding Michael Jackson dance around like lightning, I knew the man's heart had to be strong apart from emotional stress and possible prescription meds (which I speculate he was taking prior to his death). Then when I heard Michael's brother Jermaine Jackson speak to the media on behalf of the family Thursday evening concerning the loss of his brother Michael, I knew something was up.
Jermaine said, “It is believed he suffered cardiac arrest in his home. However, the cause of death is unknown until the results of the autopsy are done.” Having been trained in advanced interrogation the choice of words was cause for concern.
Then when I heard Michael had a doctor living with him, I thought that was a bit odd for a man his age. Yet Michael has always been a bit eccentric. However upon seeing an old interview replayed wherein Michael held a baby on his lap and nervously bounced his knee extremely fast the whole time, I could see this wonderful man whose peformances touched and uplifted the world himself was very troubled and restless within.
The countless facial surgeries were an outward manifestation of the inner turmoil occuring within Michael. Sadly he who gave hope to so many and made people who saw themselves as nobodies believe in themselves, the same man Michael Jackson deeply yearned for unconditional love and affirmation himself. With such extraordinary wealth and influence it is no wonder Michael enjoyed being with animals and children, they who loved Michael for Michael (not what they could get from Michael).
People very close to Michael Jackson reacting with such surprise, it makes you wonder what really was going on.
“I am absolutely devastated at this tragic and unexpected news,” the music producer Quincy Jones said in a statement read by MSNBC. Mr. Jones said Mr. Jackson “had it all — talent, grace, professionalism and dedication.” Mr. Jones added, “I’ve lost my little brother today, and part of my soul has gone with him.”
Berry Gordy, founder of Motown Records who helped turn the Jackson 5 into pop stars, said on CNN.com that he felt sorry “for all of the fans around the world that are so much in love with Michael.”
Mr. Gordy said that Mr. Jackson, as a boy, “always wanted to be the best, and he was willing to work as hard as it took to be that. And we could all see that he was a winner at that age. And I’ve always believed winners are winners long before they win. And picking them out before they win is very easy with a Michael Jackson.”
I feel Cher said it best when talking to Larry King about Michael Jackson. "Michael was touched and had something special from God."
I could't agree more! Unfortunately I feel Michael restled with his manhood, identity, and as he so eloquently sang "the man in the mirror." Yet Michael beautifully looked beyond himself to marvel and amaze us all with his brilliance as a songwriter, his moves as a dancer, his wow factor as a performer, and his boldness to be true to himself no matter what the media or others said.
Michael broke the rock and color barrier, transcending rock and birthing pop. Liberating generations of performers that follow him to be free to express themselves authentically, Michael Jackson's accomplishments musically are legendary.
I only wish he could have lived longer to enjoy the fruit of his labor, see his grandchildren, and rejoice with his family. Michael shall always be loved, his songs cherished, and his presence missed.
Nevertheless let Michael's absence be a reminder to the media to be gracious to celebrities who are also human beings (often inwardly suffering in some personal way as the rest of us who struggle with various challenges of life). Let Michael's sudden death be a reminder to all performers to cultivate their personal life beyond their platform persona. Let Michael's untimely departure remind us all to cherish every moment of the life we have and to live our dreams fully, unapologetically, and wholeheartedly.
Michael you thrilled us with your life and your tragic death alike.
Godspeed my friend.
ps. To be promoted and make your home in heaven after life on earth, there is only one name by which humanity can be saved and taste the afterlife, that is Jesus Christ the life and the resurrection (Acts 1:10-11; 4:12; John 11:25).
www.PaulFDavis.com - worldwide speaker & life-changing author of "Breakthrough For A Broken Heart"
Paul is no stranger to substance abuse, as his mother died prematurely as a result of it. Moreover Paul too knows depression and heartache following his ex-wife's affair which broke his heart, brought him to a personal ground zero, and caused him to take a strong look at the "man in the mirror". Yet Paul found hope and restoration when he looked into the mirror of God's Word which brought transformation within causing him to transcend his pain and win (James 1:22-24).
Some call God Allah, as does Jermaine Jackson. Jesus however is the undisputed Prince of peace. I pray the love, comfort, and goodness of God will be with the Jackson family and friends throughout this difficult time.
Another "king" named Elvis seemingly died in a similar way as Michael. Elvis the son of a minister wrestled within his soul to find peace. Truly peace is not found in a preacher or religion, but in connecting with the Creator of the world and King of the universe. Within the quietness of your own heart, cry out to Jesus right now and invite the Spirit of Christ to comfort and fill you to overflowing.
Invite Paul to speak in your city! RevivingNations@yahoo.com
www.PaulFDavis.com - author of God vs. Religion
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Unemployed College Graduate, College Graduate Wanted, Be Unemployed No More! College Graduate Needed
Unemployed college graduated wanted for amazing career opportunity. College graduate needed. Be unemployed no more college graduates. Amazing opportunity for college graduate willing to travel. Opportunity of lifetime for unemployed college graduate.
Traveling the world is the most exciting, adventurous, and fulfilling thing you will ever do. My travels thus far have taken me to over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents.
If interested and willing to live in Japan or Korea, have a free apartment, earn a salary of around $2,500 a month, and get half of your health insurance (in many cases full coverage) covered then write me.
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
Now for a limited time I am extending the opportunity to a few unemployed college graduates desirous of living and teaching abroad (specifically in Japan or Korea). The primary requirements are you must have a BA / BS degree from a college / University, be a native English speaker from the US, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa or England and be 25-40 years.
The age requirement is a bit flexible if you are professional, mature, and can conduct yourself well. Single persons are most desirous given the ease for the schools in providing accommodations. Nevertheless married couples are also encouraged to apply.
If interested, kindly reply to RevivingNations@yahoo.com and RevivingNations@gmail.com (to be sure I receive your letter through the spam filters). Write "Overseas Teacher for Job" in the subject of your email and answer the following questions below. No teaching experience is required.
Name:
Nationality:
Age:
Gender:
Marital status:
What are your motivations/reasons to teach English in Japan?
What experience do you have teaching children?
Do you have any special accommodation requirements (e.g. married couple etc)?
Do you have any health problems?
Y/N (if yes, explain how these may affect your role as an ESL Teacher)
Where have you traveled overseas?
Can you speak Japanese (**NOT necessary***)?
Y/N (if so to what level? )
Are you licensed to drive a vehicle?
If required, are you able to ride a pushbike (max distance approx 10 km)? Y/N
Any other information / skills / talents you possess?
Please kindly send your answers to RevivingNations@yahoo.com and RevivingNations@gmail.com (to be sure I receive your letter through the spam filters) answering the following questions above.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
Paul F. Davis is a worldwide speaker who has touched over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!
Paul is the author of 17 life-changing books and a premier life coach building dreams, breaking limitations, and transforming individuals and organizations. Paul is a change master that knows how to play with pain, while elegantly and humorously navigating through transition and riding the waves of change.
- Paul worked at Ground Zero in New York City the first week of 9/11, two stops from Brooklyn Heights where Paul used to live. Paul drove a rental car up to NYC from Orlando, FL as all airports were shut down for national security reasons.
- Paul helped a Muslim young man rebuild his home at the tsunami epicenter in Indonesia and spoke to tribal groups in Wamena who are "naked and not ashamed."
- Paul comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda and Burundi where 1.2 million people were slaughtered.
- Paul spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war for independence before the UN recognized the new nation.
- Paul addressed University students and monks in Myanmar working together to achieve democracy.
- Paul spoke throughout war-torn East Africa journeying deep into the "bush" where villagers have never seen a white man.
- Paul lived in and lectured throughout India and China the two largest populaces on earth.
- Paul journeyed to Pakistan twice since 9/11 to speak to large audiences about peace, non-violence, and reconciliation.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
Paul F. Davis empowers individuals and organizations to live their dreams! If you are an unemployed college graduate in need of a job, write Paul immediately sending him your resume, professional photo, and the answers to the above questions. Please note how soon you are ready to travel abroad to take a teaching assignment. Unemployed college graduate respond now before it is too late!
A window of opportunity doesn't stay open for ever!
Traveling the world is the most exciting, adventurous, and fulfilling thing you will ever do. My travels thus far have taken me to over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents.
If interested and willing to live in Japan or Korea, have a free apartment, earn a salary of around $2,500 a month, and get half of your health insurance (in many cases full coverage) covered then write me.
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
Now for a limited time I am extending the opportunity to a few unemployed college graduates desirous of living and teaching abroad (specifically in Japan or Korea). The primary requirements are you must have a BA / BS degree from a college / University, be a native English speaker from the US, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa or England and be 25-40 years.
The age requirement is a bit flexible if you are professional, mature, and can conduct yourself well. Single persons are most desirous given the ease for the schools in providing accommodations. Nevertheless married couples are also encouraged to apply.
If interested, kindly reply to RevivingNations@yahoo.com and RevivingNations@gmail.com (to be sure I receive your letter through the spam filters). Write "Overseas Teacher for Job" in the subject of your email and answer the following questions below. No teaching experience is required.
Name:
Nationality:
Age:
Gender:
Marital status:
What are your motivations/reasons to teach English in Japan?
What experience do you have teaching children?
Do you have any special accommodation requirements (e.g. married couple etc)?
Do you have any health problems?
Y/N (if yes, explain how these may affect your role as an ESL Teacher)
Where have you traveled overseas?
Can you speak Japanese (**NOT necessary***)?
Y/N (if so to what level? )
Are you licensed to drive a vehicle?
If required, are you able to ride a pushbike (max distance approx 10 km)? Y/N
Any other information / skills / talents you possess?
Please kindly send your answers to RevivingNations@yahoo.com and RevivingNations@gmail.com (to be sure I receive your letter through the spam filters) answering the following questions above.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
Paul F. Davis is a worldwide speaker who has touched over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!
Paul is the author of 17 life-changing books and a premier life coach building dreams, breaking limitations, and transforming individuals and organizations. Paul is a change master that knows how to play with pain, while elegantly and humorously navigating through transition and riding the waves of change.
- Paul worked at Ground Zero in New York City the first week of 9/11, two stops from Brooklyn Heights where Paul used to live. Paul drove a rental car up to NYC from Orlando, FL as all airports were shut down for national security reasons.
- Paul helped a Muslim young man rebuild his home at the tsunami epicenter in Indonesia and spoke to tribal groups in Wamena who are "naked and not ashamed."
- Paul comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda and Burundi where 1.2 million people were slaughtered.
- Paul spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war for independence before the UN recognized the new nation.
- Paul addressed University students and monks in Myanmar working together to achieve democracy.
- Paul spoke throughout war-torn East Africa journeying deep into the "bush" where villagers have never seen a white man.
- Paul lived in and lectured throughout India and China the two largest populaces on earth.
- Paul journeyed to Pakistan twice since 9/11 to speak to large audiences about peace, non-violence, and reconciliation.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
Paul F. Davis empowers individuals and organizations to live their dreams! If you are an unemployed college graduate in need of a job, write Paul immediately sending him your resume, professional photo, and the answers to the above questions. Please note how soon you are ready to travel abroad to take a teaching assignment. Unemployed college graduate respond now before it is too late!
A window of opportunity doesn't stay open for ever!
Monday, March 30, 2009
Sorority Sisters Conflict Resolution Secrets - College Students Conflict Dispute Resolution to Peace
Sorority sisters conflict & dispute resolution secrets. Resolve conflict with sorority sisters at your sorority house before things escalate and something worse happens. Conquer conflicts and reconcile with sorority sisters to ensure sorority success on your college campus.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership, overcoming adversity & conflict resolution!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Do we have to go to court over everything nowadays? Do we not have brains to work things out ourselves? Must we hold grudges for a lifetime? Isn't there a better way?
Going to court is becoming increasingly costly and often futile. Parties and individuals in conflict are therefore turning to alternative methods of dispute resolution - mediation and arbitration being two options.
Sorority sisters cultivating meaningful bonds and a college association through whom to network into their careers after graduation must learn how to communicate, work together, and move from confrontation to cooperation.
Here are 17 Secrets for Conflict Dispute Resolution for Sorority Sisters to Successfully Peace within and throughout their College Campus:
1. Consider conflict an opportunity not a curse
Conflict is a character building and interpersonal communications improvement opportunity. We all have blind spots, preconceived ideas, personal peculiarities and tendencies that can make us hard to deal with at times. Being able to identify other character types and communication styles is beneficial for sorority sisters, though it may not always be easy to endure at first.
Learn to respond to conflict naturally and with openness. Keep your ears and heart open to receive. In so doing you will disarm the aggressor and show yourself to be a reasonable human being. To do otherwise will only further antagonize the angered party and increase aggression and the erecting of walls between you. Sometimes as sorority sisters listen and ask for more information as to the true source of the conflict, sisters will find perhaps that what seemed to be the initial problem was merely superficial as they dig deeper into the real underlying problem eating at the person. In such situations conflict becomes a learning experience all of the sisters within the sorority, as well as leadership.
2. Respect and don't reject people regardless of your disagreement
Separate the person from the behavior. Remember we all come from different backgrounds, upbringings and environments that have shaped and molded us to be who we are today. We are all continually changing and evolving. Give sisters grace to grow as they come to a greater level of self-awareness. As you do and sisters discover how gracious you've been to them, they will become the most loyal employees you will ever have. This is true empowerment.
3. Acknowledge and confess any contributory negligence
Conflict always begins within. It is often bred within our own hearts and minds as we prematurely judge, falsely assume, erroneously jump to conclusions, and allow ourselves to become overly invested in our individual interests. Purity of heart and mind is obtained when we examine ourselves first before scrutinizing somebody else. We must judge ourselves first. We commonly however judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their actions. This is to say we don't typically use fair weights, standards and measures when we judge others.
If sorority sisters would be brutally honest with themselves they would find that in every conflict they have somehow contributed to it be through what they have said, done or left unsaid and undone. Neglecting to affirm sisters after work well done is as negligent behavior as them forgetting to get the work done. We all hunger for recognition and praise. Leadership must honor and recognize sisters for their performance. If we don't recognize, someone else will. To avoid sisters departures from the sorority and high turnover, we must honor and acknowledge sisters' heartfelt efforts even when they fall short of perfection or our expectation.
Sometimes in the midst of all our efforts to be increasingly productive and profitable, we are not personable and can be offensive to our sisters. Recognize such times and apologize for being that way. By acknowledging and apologizing for wrong doing sisters leading the sorority are taking responsibility and encouraging everyone all sisters to be responsible. Confession brings freedom. Suddenly you will find many people begin to humble themselves and confess their own faults. It won't be long before everyone is reconciled and bonding again. Rest assured when this happens sorority sister morale and productivity will skyrocket. Where sorority sisters feel well they work well.
4. Step into greatness by overcoming evil with good
Forgive and extend a chance to be reconciled. After World War I the United States proved to be a society with enormous confidence in its achievements and in its future wherewith it mustered the dedication and the resources to strive for a world order in which defeated enemies would be conciliated, stricken allies restored, and adversaries converted. Because the United States took the higher ground endeavoring to reconcile, restore and convert its enemies after defeating them, it is today a world super power.
The stronger you are, the more gentle you can afford to be. Gentleness is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of true strength. When you overcome evil with good, it disarms the wrongdoer to be transformed after which they are more likely to live up to your ideals and level of integrity.
5. Formulate what you want to say and how you will say it
Remember it is not only what you say, but how you say it. The manner and tone by a sister expresses herself will determine the level of receptivity with which she is received. Receiving constructive criticism is never easy, but it can be bearable if the sister giving it is kind, affirming and sincere. Start up soft, affirming the sister's good qualities and your working relationship before proceeding to find fault and correct. Build on strengths and proceed from a place of agreement. Compliment and praise before providing constructive criticism.
6. Value internal security over external security and acceptance
Be confident and congruent with what you say in conflict. Don't waver because of resistance or lack of acceptance. Be true to yourself. Avoid personalizing rejection concerning sorority decisions and objectives. Separate yourself personally from the sorority at large, when necessary to show each sister you genuinely care. Provide a personal pep talk when needed and useful to build a downcast sister feeling rejected.
7. Avoid premature assumptions
Premature and erroneous assumptions dwarf you, hinder employee morale and diminish the company. Don't believe it is so until you have first heard it from the horse's mouth. Avoid gossiping. Get things out in the open and speak face to face respectfully. Remember presumption is the great transgression (Psalm 19:12-13).
Before the days of U.S. President Reagan and Russian President Gorbachev's relationship, inherent ideologies and perceptions kept us apart. Communist ideology was at the heart of Stalin's approach to the world. Stalin regarded the Western capitalist powers as irrevocably hostile. The friction between the Soviet Union and America was therefore not the product of some misunderstanding or faulty communications between Washington and Moscow, but inherent in the Soviet Union's perception of the outside world.
George Kennan, an expert on Russia, examining the philosophical and conceptual framework for Stalin's foreign policy found in Russian rulers fear. At the bottom of the Kremlin's neurotic view of world affairs is the traditional and instinctive Russian sense of insecurity. To this was added, as Russia came into contact with the economically advanced West, a fear of more competent, more powerful, more highly organized societies. But this latter type of insecurity was one which afflicted Russian rulers rather than Russian people.
8. Speak with positive expectation believing the best
Stating your feelings and desire with positive expectation pulls people to the level of performance you desire. For example, "Sister Sally, you've always done a great job of giving your all in every account. As of late however you seem to not quite be yourself. Is there anything I can do to help? I desire to see you succeed and be your personal best. Know I am fully committed to you as you are to this company." Affirming a sister and your expectations of their success will endear a sister to you and cause them to want to live up to the sorority's wishes.
You get what you expect. Henry Kissinger, in his Diplomacy book, recognized the part faith played in the United States rise to becoming a global power. President Truman proclaimed his doctrine as "the policy of the United States to support free peoples who are resisting attempted subjugation by armed minorities or by outside pressures." The Truman Doctrine marked a watershed because once America had thrown down the moral gauntlet, the kind of Realpolitik Stalin understood best would be forever at an end.
Anchored to a platform of social and economic reform, the United States announced that it would oppose not only any government but any organization that impeded the process of European recovery.
Only a country as idealistic, as pioneering, and as relatively inexperienced as the United States could have advanced a plan for global economic recovery based solely on its own resources. ...Great enterprises are often driven by a touch of naivete.
9. Practice active listening, offering reflections
Listen attentively and reflect back what you are hearing the person saying. Reiterate and seek to clarify that you are hearing correctly. By doing so, you give a sister an opportunity to double her feedback to you and accurately convey both her thoughts and feelings. Provide inclusive summaries stating your take on what a sister is saying (according to your interpretation) after you've fully heard them.
Follow the emotional heat alongside the content being mentioned. Intense emotional tones accompany the most important content clueing you in on where you need to place additional emphasis and attention. Upon locating the emotional heat, ask for more information and investigate further while proceeding with sensitivity.
Proactive listening is accompanied with nonverbal cues and body language that affirm your genuine interest. For example, you could lean forward attentively. Avoid folding your arms as if to display disinterest or disagreement. Nodding your head also shows a sister you are genuinely absorbing and taking in all that is being said by her. This is not to say you have to necessarily agree with what you are hearing, but by listening you can affirm the person. Highlight the choice points you heard made throughout the conversation and welcome any suggestions to alleviate the conflict. This will often open up a sister to likewise hear from you in regard to the matter.
10. Prefer and encourage cooperation and collaboration over competition
AOL's negotiator, David Colburn, showed what can be done when he chose not to vilify the competition. I first studied this landmark case prepared by Professor James Sebenius with the author while studying Strategic Negotiation and Dealmaking at Harvard Business School.
AOL"s relationship with Microsoft was overwhelmingly hostile during the browser wars. In the early 1990's, Paul Allen, co-founder of Microsoft, had been the single largest shareholder in AOL with a 29% stake. Allen wanted to take over AOL but was stopped in his tracks by Steve Case CEO of AOL. At the time, Bill Gates turned up the heat on Steve Case, telling him: "I can buy 20% of you or I can buy all of you. Or I can go into this business myself and bury you." Two months later Microsoft unveiled MSN and became AOL's most formidable direct competitor. Gates was demonized within AOL and a hostile relationship developed between the companies.
The media and information technology journalists had dubbed AOL the Internet for slow learners. Steve Case desperately wanted to license the Navigator browser because a link to Netscape would gild AOL's tarnished technological image.
AOL's lead negotiator, David Colburn, who had only joined the firm in September 1995, was not hostile toward Microsoft. Colburn therefore was able to look for the better deal for AOL and assess what the market had to meet AOL's needs. As it turned out Colburn brilliantly did some double dealmaking with both Netscape and Microsoft. AOL would pay Netscape a significant per copy fee to license Navigator which would become the "preferred" browser for AOL subscribers under a non-exclusive agreement. In return, AOL would have a prominent presence on the Netscape website and both companies would engage in cross-promotional activities. That day AOL stock rose 10%.
The very evening AOL inked a much bigger deal with Microsoft. AOL would not have to pay Microsoft a penny for Explorer - saving it millions. AOL client software would be bundled with Windows 95 allowing costless distribution to 50 million PC users a year. This free distribution and promotion via Windows represented a marketing coup because, until now, AOL had had to spend $40-$80 to attract each new subscriber.
MSN suddenly became a casualty of the AOL-Microsoft deal. Demonstrating daring strategic flexibility, Gates sacrificed much of his firm's investment in MSN to fight Netscape's threat to Microsoft's core assets. The biggest win for Microsoft was that Explorer would be the virtually exclusive "default" browser for AOL's rapidly growing subscriber base. Shutting Netscape out of this large market segment was a triumph not to be underestimated.
Cooperation does not mean an end to competition. As for our differences, we will not do away with them, but we can deal with them more constructively and creatively to build win-win relationships.
Conflict resolution is about facilitating and sustaining daily cooperation. Interpersonal conflict that we encounter every day can seem to be an insurmountable obstacle: attacks and counterattacks, anger and suspicion, ingrained habits of hard bargaining, interests that appear irreconcilable, and efforts to win through intimidation and power plays. Cooperation and collaboration on the other hand can stimulate creativity, increase profitability, lead to profound results and produce lifelong partnerships among sisters in the sorority.
11. Practice diplomacy
Diplomacy is the art of letting someone else have your way. Women are great at this. One grandmother advised her grand-daughter: "Make him run after you until you catch him."
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Learn how to frame an issue to favor your opponent's objectives and appear most suitable to them. This is how you build win-win relationships and forge partnerships that endure within your sorority.
Make the sisters within your sorority feel it is in their best interest to work with you and that it is their highest privilege to do so. Remind the sisters of how they will benefit from their heartfelt contribution, remembering every sister wants to advance her own interests simultaneously while serving the sorority.
12. Focus on problem solving and welcome outside input
As a sorority sister, you are either part of the problem or part of the solution. Be honestly open to accept influence and consider another sister's position. Reflect such openness in your body language when listening. Albert Einstein said: "It is people who make me seasick-not the sea. But I'm afraid that science is yet to find a solution for this ailment." Solutions come when we actively pursue them together rather than fight one another. We all have blind spots and different perspectives. When we work together we all see more clearly and become more powerful. None of us are as strong as all of us.
13. Remember in conflict you can win a battle and lose the war.
Albert Einstein said: "As long as there will be man, there will be wars."
War is becoming an increasingly expensive and inconclusive way of handling acute conflicts. In an age of deadly weaponry, even bitter enemies must often learn to work together in order to survive.
Henry Kissinger in his book Diplomacy cites the aftermath of World War I. Once war had been declared, and as the streets of European capitals filled with cheering throngs, the conflict ceased being a conflict of chancelleries and turned into a struggle of the masses. After the first two years of the war, each side was stating terms incompatible with any notion of equilibrium.
What proved beyond everyone's imagination was that both sides would win and lost at the same time: that Germany would defeat Russia and seriously weaken both France and England; but that, in the end, the Western Allies, with America's indispensable assistance, would emerge as the victors. The aftermath of World War I was social upheaval, the enemy being strengthened geopolitically, ideological conflict, countless young men's lives sacrificed and another world war.
14. Celebrate diversity and authenticity - diversity in thought, expression, professionalism, problem solving, interpersonal communication and way of life
Einstein said further: "Common convictions and aims, similar interests, will in every society produce groups that, in a certain sense, act as units. There will always be friction between such groups-the same sort of aversion and rivalry that exists between individuals.... In my opinion, uniformity in a population would not be desirable, even if it were attainable."
15. Cultivate a culture of peace and preferring one another
By cultivating a culture of peace, patience, and tolerance for every sister will be the result. Where there is patience, unconditional love and acceptance is not far behind. Such an environment makes sisters feel safe, thrive, come alive and be increasingly creative and productive for the good of the sorority.
By preferring one another over ourselves, we give way to a spirit of generosity and brotherhood which causes a team mentality to arise. Less of me more of we. When we think like this the organization's well being as a whole is thought of before that of the individual. Ask not what your sorority can do for you, ask what you can do for your sorority. Win-win relationships and interactions are then forged which bring about mutually inclusive benefits for all.
16. Maintain a sense of humor and unconditional acceptance
As successful marriages show us, you don't have to always resolve your disagreements and conflicts to thrive. When you welcome people into your world they bring their peculiarities and problems along with them. Where there are no oxen the stall is, but much increase comes by the strength of the ox. Sometimes you have to accept people as they are, realizing they may never change.
Matters of personal preference do not need to take preeminence in your working relationship. As the old adage goes there are many ways to skin a cat. Each of us prioritize differently. Keep things in their proper place and don't unnecessarily take offense at another's approach, manner of reasoning or way of logically (or illogically) processing a situation. Life is to be lived and enjoyed. Employ your sense of humor and unconditional acceptance of others and you will get far greater results and work productivity from your staff at the end of the day. Sisters want to be acknowledged as individuals apart from their performance. Problems are inevitable. Celebrate and empower sisters despite their peculiarities and occasional mistakes. As you do and show yourself forgiving, you will see sisters go the extra mile for you to solve the sorority's problems.
Don't take yourself too seriously. Have a good laugh to diffuse the tension, disarm people and reunite with all involved.
17. Be merciful
Anyone can hold a grudge. It takes a quality person to rise above the offense, extend mercy and overlook it. Practice the art of pardoning and refuse to hold past resentments. Forgive and live!
Bitterness is a heavy burden that eats away at everyone involve and further spreads to infest all around you. It's not worth carrying or perpetuating. As Shakespeare acknowledged mercy is twice blessed. It blesses the sister that gives it and the recipient that takes it.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership, overcoming adversity & conflict resolution!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.
Paul's 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor's Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.
After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Paul's academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.
A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul's humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.
As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.
http:///www.PaulFDavis.com
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership, overcoming adversity & conflict resolution!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Do we have to go to court over everything nowadays? Do we not have brains to work things out ourselves? Must we hold grudges for a lifetime? Isn't there a better way?
Going to court is becoming increasingly costly and often futile. Parties and individuals in conflict are therefore turning to alternative methods of dispute resolution - mediation and arbitration being two options.
Sorority sisters cultivating meaningful bonds and a college association through whom to network into their careers after graduation must learn how to communicate, work together, and move from confrontation to cooperation.
Here are 17 Secrets for Conflict Dispute Resolution for Sorority Sisters to Successfully Peace within and throughout their College Campus:
1. Consider conflict an opportunity not a curse
Conflict is a character building and interpersonal communications improvement opportunity. We all have blind spots, preconceived ideas, personal peculiarities and tendencies that can make us hard to deal with at times. Being able to identify other character types and communication styles is beneficial for sorority sisters, though it may not always be easy to endure at first.
Learn to respond to conflict naturally and with openness. Keep your ears and heart open to receive. In so doing you will disarm the aggressor and show yourself to be a reasonable human being. To do otherwise will only further antagonize the angered party and increase aggression and the erecting of walls between you. Sometimes as sorority sisters listen and ask for more information as to the true source of the conflict, sisters will find perhaps that what seemed to be the initial problem was merely superficial as they dig deeper into the real underlying problem eating at the person. In such situations conflict becomes a learning experience all of the sisters within the sorority, as well as leadership.
2. Respect and don't reject people regardless of your disagreement
Separate the person from the behavior. Remember we all come from different backgrounds, upbringings and environments that have shaped and molded us to be who we are today. We are all continually changing and evolving. Give sisters grace to grow as they come to a greater level of self-awareness. As you do and sisters discover how gracious you've been to them, they will become the most loyal employees you will ever have. This is true empowerment.
3. Acknowledge and confess any contributory negligence
Conflict always begins within. It is often bred within our own hearts and minds as we prematurely judge, falsely assume, erroneously jump to conclusions, and allow ourselves to become overly invested in our individual interests. Purity of heart and mind is obtained when we examine ourselves first before scrutinizing somebody else. We must judge ourselves first. We commonly however judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their actions. This is to say we don't typically use fair weights, standards and measures when we judge others.
If sorority sisters would be brutally honest with themselves they would find that in every conflict they have somehow contributed to it be through what they have said, done or left unsaid and undone. Neglecting to affirm sisters after work well done is as negligent behavior as them forgetting to get the work done. We all hunger for recognition and praise. Leadership must honor and recognize sisters for their performance. If we don't recognize, someone else will. To avoid sisters departures from the sorority and high turnover, we must honor and acknowledge sisters' heartfelt efforts even when they fall short of perfection or our expectation.
Sometimes in the midst of all our efforts to be increasingly productive and profitable, we are not personable and can be offensive to our sisters. Recognize such times and apologize for being that way. By acknowledging and apologizing for wrong doing sisters leading the sorority are taking responsibility and encouraging everyone all sisters to be responsible. Confession brings freedom. Suddenly you will find many people begin to humble themselves and confess their own faults. It won't be long before everyone is reconciled and bonding again. Rest assured when this happens sorority sister morale and productivity will skyrocket. Where sorority sisters feel well they work well.
4. Step into greatness by overcoming evil with good
Forgive and extend a chance to be reconciled. After World War I the United States proved to be a society with enormous confidence in its achievements and in its future wherewith it mustered the dedication and the resources to strive for a world order in which defeated enemies would be conciliated, stricken allies restored, and adversaries converted. Because the United States took the higher ground endeavoring to reconcile, restore and convert its enemies after defeating them, it is today a world super power.
The stronger you are, the more gentle you can afford to be. Gentleness is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of true strength. When you overcome evil with good, it disarms the wrongdoer to be transformed after which they are more likely to live up to your ideals and level of integrity.
5. Formulate what you want to say and how you will say it
Remember it is not only what you say, but how you say it. The manner and tone by a sister expresses herself will determine the level of receptivity with which she is received. Receiving constructive criticism is never easy, but it can be bearable if the sister giving it is kind, affirming and sincere. Start up soft, affirming the sister's good qualities and your working relationship before proceeding to find fault and correct. Build on strengths and proceed from a place of agreement. Compliment and praise before providing constructive criticism.
6. Value internal security over external security and acceptance
Be confident and congruent with what you say in conflict. Don't waver because of resistance or lack of acceptance. Be true to yourself. Avoid personalizing rejection concerning sorority decisions and objectives. Separate yourself personally from the sorority at large, when necessary to show each sister you genuinely care. Provide a personal pep talk when needed and useful to build a downcast sister feeling rejected.
7. Avoid premature assumptions
Premature and erroneous assumptions dwarf you, hinder employee morale and diminish the company. Don't believe it is so until you have first heard it from the horse's mouth. Avoid gossiping. Get things out in the open and speak face to face respectfully. Remember presumption is the great transgression (Psalm 19:12-13).
Before the days of U.S. President Reagan and Russian President Gorbachev's relationship, inherent ideologies and perceptions kept us apart. Communist ideology was at the heart of Stalin's approach to the world. Stalin regarded the Western capitalist powers as irrevocably hostile. The friction between the Soviet Union and America was therefore not the product of some misunderstanding or faulty communications between Washington and Moscow, but inherent in the Soviet Union's perception of the outside world.
George Kennan, an expert on Russia, examining the philosophical and conceptual framework for Stalin's foreign policy found in Russian rulers fear. At the bottom of the Kremlin's neurotic view of world affairs is the traditional and instinctive Russian sense of insecurity. To this was added, as Russia came into contact with the economically advanced West, a fear of more competent, more powerful, more highly organized societies. But this latter type of insecurity was one which afflicted Russian rulers rather than Russian people.
8. Speak with positive expectation believing the best
Stating your feelings and desire with positive expectation pulls people to the level of performance you desire. For example, "Sister Sally, you've always done a great job of giving your all in every account. As of late however you seem to not quite be yourself. Is there anything I can do to help? I desire to see you succeed and be your personal best. Know I am fully committed to you as you are to this company." Affirming a sister and your expectations of their success will endear a sister to you and cause them to want to live up to the sorority's wishes.
You get what you expect. Henry Kissinger, in his Diplomacy book, recognized the part faith played in the United States rise to becoming a global power. President Truman proclaimed his doctrine as "the policy of the United States to support free peoples who are resisting attempted subjugation by armed minorities or by outside pressures." The Truman Doctrine marked a watershed because once America had thrown down the moral gauntlet, the kind of Realpolitik Stalin understood best would be forever at an end.
Anchored to a platform of social and economic reform, the United States announced that it would oppose not only any government but any organization that impeded the process of European recovery.
Only a country as idealistic, as pioneering, and as relatively inexperienced as the United States could have advanced a plan for global economic recovery based solely on its own resources. ...Great enterprises are often driven by a touch of naivete.
9. Practice active listening, offering reflections
Listen attentively and reflect back what you are hearing the person saying. Reiterate and seek to clarify that you are hearing correctly. By doing so, you give a sister an opportunity to double her feedback to you and accurately convey both her thoughts and feelings. Provide inclusive summaries stating your take on what a sister is saying (according to your interpretation) after you've fully heard them.
Follow the emotional heat alongside the content being mentioned. Intense emotional tones accompany the most important content clueing you in on where you need to place additional emphasis and attention. Upon locating the emotional heat, ask for more information and investigate further while proceeding with sensitivity.
Proactive listening is accompanied with nonverbal cues and body language that affirm your genuine interest. For example, you could lean forward attentively. Avoid folding your arms as if to display disinterest or disagreement. Nodding your head also shows a sister you are genuinely absorbing and taking in all that is being said by her. This is not to say you have to necessarily agree with what you are hearing, but by listening you can affirm the person. Highlight the choice points you heard made throughout the conversation and welcome any suggestions to alleviate the conflict. This will often open up a sister to likewise hear from you in regard to the matter.
10. Prefer and encourage cooperation and collaboration over competition
AOL's negotiator, David Colburn, showed what can be done when he chose not to vilify the competition. I first studied this landmark case prepared by Professor James Sebenius with the author while studying Strategic Negotiation and Dealmaking at Harvard Business School.
AOL"s relationship with Microsoft was overwhelmingly hostile during the browser wars. In the early 1990's, Paul Allen, co-founder of Microsoft, had been the single largest shareholder in AOL with a 29% stake. Allen wanted to take over AOL but was stopped in his tracks by Steve Case CEO of AOL. At the time, Bill Gates turned up the heat on Steve Case, telling him: "I can buy 20% of you or I can buy all of you. Or I can go into this business myself and bury you." Two months later Microsoft unveiled MSN and became AOL's most formidable direct competitor. Gates was demonized within AOL and a hostile relationship developed between the companies.
The media and information technology journalists had dubbed AOL the Internet for slow learners. Steve Case desperately wanted to license the Navigator browser because a link to Netscape would gild AOL's tarnished technological image.
AOL's lead negotiator, David Colburn, who had only joined the firm in September 1995, was not hostile toward Microsoft. Colburn therefore was able to look for the better deal for AOL and assess what the market had to meet AOL's needs. As it turned out Colburn brilliantly did some double dealmaking with both Netscape and Microsoft. AOL would pay Netscape a significant per copy fee to license Navigator which would become the "preferred" browser for AOL subscribers under a non-exclusive agreement. In return, AOL would have a prominent presence on the Netscape website and both companies would engage in cross-promotional activities. That day AOL stock rose 10%.
The very evening AOL inked a much bigger deal with Microsoft. AOL would not have to pay Microsoft a penny for Explorer - saving it millions. AOL client software would be bundled with Windows 95 allowing costless distribution to 50 million PC users a year. This free distribution and promotion via Windows represented a marketing coup because, until now, AOL had had to spend $40-$80 to attract each new subscriber.
MSN suddenly became a casualty of the AOL-Microsoft deal. Demonstrating daring strategic flexibility, Gates sacrificed much of his firm's investment in MSN to fight Netscape's threat to Microsoft's core assets. The biggest win for Microsoft was that Explorer would be the virtually exclusive "default" browser for AOL's rapidly growing subscriber base. Shutting Netscape out of this large market segment was a triumph not to be underestimated.
Cooperation does not mean an end to competition. As for our differences, we will not do away with them, but we can deal with them more constructively and creatively to build win-win relationships.
Conflict resolution is about facilitating and sustaining daily cooperation. Interpersonal conflict that we encounter every day can seem to be an insurmountable obstacle: attacks and counterattacks, anger and suspicion, ingrained habits of hard bargaining, interests that appear irreconcilable, and efforts to win through intimidation and power plays. Cooperation and collaboration on the other hand can stimulate creativity, increase profitability, lead to profound results and produce lifelong partnerships among sisters in the sorority.
11. Practice diplomacy
Diplomacy is the art of letting someone else have your way. Women are great at this. One grandmother advised her grand-daughter: "Make him run after you until you catch him."
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Learn how to frame an issue to favor your opponent's objectives and appear most suitable to them. This is how you build win-win relationships and forge partnerships that endure within your sorority.
Make the sisters within your sorority feel it is in their best interest to work with you and that it is their highest privilege to do so. Remind the sisters of how they will benefit from their heartfelt contribution, remembering every sister wants to advance her own interests simultaneously while serving the sorority.
12. Focus on problem solving and welcome outside input
As a sorority sister, you are either part of the problem or part of the solution. Be honestly open to accept influence and consider another sister's position. Reflect such openness in your body language when listening. Albert Einstein said: "It is people who make me seasick-not the sea. But I'm afraid that science is yet to find a solution for this ailment." Solutions come when we actively pursue them together rather than fight one another. We all have blind spots and different perspectives. When we work together we all see more clearly and become more powerful. None of us are as strong as all of us.
13. Remember in conflict you can win a battle and lose the war.
Albert Einstein said: "As long as there will be man, there will be wars."
War is becoming an increasingly expensive and inconclusive way of handling acute conflicts. In an age of deadly weaponry, even bitter enemies must often learn to work together in order to survive.
Henry Kissinger in his book Diplomacy cites the aftermath of World War I. Once war had been declared, and as the streets of European capitals filled with cheering throngs, the conflict ceased being a conflict of chancelleries and turned into a struggle of the masses. After the first two years of the war, each side was stating terms incompatible with any notion of equilibrium.
What proved beyond everyone's imagination was that both sides would win and lost at the same time: that Germany would defeat Russia and seriously weaken both France and England; but that, in the end, the Western Allies, with America's indispensable assistance, would emerge as the victors. The aftermath of World War I was social upheaval, the enemy being strengthened geopolitically, ideological conflict, countless young men's lives sacrificed and another world war.
14. Celebrate diversity and authenticity - diversity in thought, expression, professionalism, problem solving, interpersonal communication and way of life
Einstein said further: "Common convictions and aims, similar interests, will in every society produce groups that, in a certain sense, act as units. There will always be friction between such groups-the same sort of aversion and rivalry that exists between individuals.... In my opinion, uniformity in a population would not be desirable, even if it were attainable."
15. Cultivate a culture of peace and preferring one another
By cultivating a culture of peace, patience, and tolerance for every sister will be the result. Where there is patience, unconditional love and acceptance is not far behind. Such an environment makes sisters feel safe, thrive, come alive and be increasingly creative and productive for the good of the sorority.
By preferring one another over ourselves, we give way to a spirit of generosity and brotherhood which causes a team mentality to arise. Less of me more of we. When we think like this the organization's well being as a whole is thought of before that of the individual. Ask not what your sorority can do for you, ask what you can do for your sorority. Win-win relationships and interactions are then forged which bring about mutually inclusive benefits for all.
16. Maintain a sense of humor and unconditional acceptance
As successful marriages show us, you don't have to always resolve your disagreements and conflicts to thrive. When you welcome people into your world they bring their peculiarities and problems along with them. Where there are no oxen the stall is, but much increase comes by the strength of the ox. Sometimes you have to accept people as they are, realizing they may never change.
Matters of personal preference do not need to take preeminence in your working relationship. As the old adage goes there are many ways to skin a cat. Each of us prioritize differently. Keep things in their proper place and don't unnecessarily take offense at another's approach, manner of reasoning or way of logically (or illogically) processing a situation. Life is to be lived and enjoyed. Employ your sense of humor and unconditional acceptance of others and you will get far greater results and work productivity from your staff at the end of the day. Sisters want to be acknowledged as individuals apart from their performance. Problems are inevitable. Celebrate and empower sisters despite their peculiarities and occasional mistakes. As you do and show yourself forgiving, you will see sisters go the extra mile for you to solve the sorority's problems.
Don't take yourself too seriously. Have a good laugh to diffuse the tension, disarm people and reunite with all involved.
17. Be merciful
Anyone can hold a grudge. It takes a quality person to rise above the offense, extend mercy and overlook it. Practice the art of pardoning and refuse to hold past resentments. Forgive and live!
Bitterness is a heavy burden that eats away at everyone involve and further spreads to infest all around you. It's not worth carrying or perpetuating. As Shakespeare acknowledged mercy is twice blessed. It blesses the sister that gives it and the recipient that takes it.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership, overcoming adversity & conflict resolution!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.
Paul's 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor's Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.
After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Paul's academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.
A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul's humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.
As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.
http:///www.PaulFDavis.com
Sunday, March 29, 2009
College Student Retention: Success Secrets For College Students, Student Advisors & Deans
College student retention is always on the forefront of the minds of college student advisors, deans, and administrators. Rightfully so, because without college students, colleges and universities cease to exist and the advisors and deans are without a job.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership & overcoming adversity!
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407-967-7553
Therefore retention and academic success is hugely important to ensure the success of a college or university. As a former college student and lifelong learner who frequents college campuses speaking on this topic and occasionally taking some professional development coursework myself, I have observed and come to know a few reasons why colleges fail at retention and why college students become discouraged and leave college.
1. College students are tolerated rather than celebrated.
When the higher-ups in a college take a hierarchal approach to education and treat students like they are beneath them, students feel alienated and become disgruntled. Nobody likes to be mistreated, particularly college students paying high fees to attend a college.
When bureaucrats within college administration, the transcript office, and the student union treat college students disrespectfully rather than serving them gladly, it frustrates college students and tells them the college or university does not care about them.
When colleges treat their students like another number, eventually students opt for a different approach to pursue their career. Students like to be respected too and not made to stand in line excessively to collect documents, books, parking decals and trivial things that to them are meaningless.
2. College students get angry at being nickled and dimed by colleges.
College students quite frankly don't like paying high tuition fees to attend college, only to later by charged for parking, and than get ticketed for parking in the wrong place when they were running late to class and they was inadequate parking to begin with.
Let's face the facts. Professors themselves on many college campuses have a hard time finding a place to park. Yet colleges continue to profit by issuing parking tickets. Making students pay $50 to $100 a semester to park is bad enough. Colleges run their parking lots like Disney World, Sea World, and Universal Studios in Orlando, profiting handsomely along the way.
Even worse is when the college intentionally and purposefully pursues issuing parking tickets night and day to collect more revenue for the college. Robbing Peter (or your college students who are already challenged financially) to pay Paul (this being the college) doesn't endear college students to the academic institution and university. On the contrary, it makes the burning mad and eventually mad enough to consider attending college elsewhere.
3. College students get demoralized when they approach their professor for help and the professor doesn't give them the time of day, nor an adequate explanation for their problem.
Professors at colleges and universities just working to further their career, collect a paycheck, and publish their latest dissertation or book who don't give students the time of day leave students feeling demoralized when they are struggling with a class.
Class assignments and college level material comes easier for some students than others. Therefore when a student is struggling and needs some additional time or help, the professor should make himself or herself available to help the student.
Unfortunately many times nowadays college professors just want to communicate via email, that is if they even check their email and reply in time to help the struggling student and answer their questions. Online forums are another method by which professors try to punt and shun students in need of help.
What colleges fail to realize however is students go to college for hands on instruction and interaction with professors, not to be alienated through an online course or partial net based course that keeps professors and college students at arms length.
4. Financial challenges and constraints cause students to withdraw from college.
Colleges aren't free and students cannot always obtain financial aid. Scholarships are wonderful if a student can get one to go to college, but many students are forced to work a part-time job to survive financially and put themselves through college.
I know I worked a part-time job to put myself through college and rode a bicycle to and from school and work. The sacrifices I made to complete my college education were many.
With the current economic downturn and rising unemployment level, many college students are being laid off from part-time jobs and struggling financially to sustain themselves and pay for their college education.
5. Students withdraw from college when they don't feel socially connected.
A solid social life wherein a student feels connected to other students on his or her college campus is vital to ensure their success. Emotional support and the comradery of friends who understand them and their struggles empower students to persevere with their college education.
When student advisors, deans, and college administration fail to account for and proactively facilitate the necessary social element that sustains students' morale, they do themselves and their college a great disservice. Undeniably and undoubtedly, college students want to feel connected and a part of something larger than themselves. Yet it is not a connection to an academic institution per say that they desire as much as it is to their fellow students journeying with them through this season of college life.
Successful colleges therefore don't just suggest and make social activities and associations available for students, but proactively facilitate and incorporate this into their college's approach to education early on. By doing so, successful colleges provide every student, including those more shy students with less social initiative the opportunity to be actively engaged and socially interact with other students. This opens the door for meaningful interaction, communication, and the establishing of meaningful friendships among college students on campus. Without such students just fall through the cracks socially, tend to become isolated, and often disappear as they become disillusioned with the whole college experience.
These five reasons are the biggest reasons retention efforts among college students are not succeeding and students are withdrawing from college.
The good news is students and professionals desire to attend college. Most of us value and uphold education. The struggles along the way en route to obtaining a college education and further professional development however when a student steps on a college campus can be irritating and downright frustrating.
Retention coordinators and specialists on college campuses therefore need to urgently and wholeheartedly attend to these matters lest they be the next ones standing in the unemployment line, when college students walk out and say they have had enough.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership & overcoming adversity!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.
Paul's 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor's Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.
After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Paul's academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.
A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul's humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.
As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.
http:///www.PaulFDavis.com
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership & overcoming adversity!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Therefore retention and academic success is hugely important to ensure the success of a college or university. As a former college student and lifelong learner who frequents college campuses speaking on this topic and occasionally taking some professional development coursework myself, I have observed and come to know a few reasons why colleges fail at retention and why college students become discouraged and leave college.
1. College students are tolerated rather than celebrated.
When the higher-ups in a college take a hierarchal approach to education and treat students like they are beneath them, students feel alienated and become disgruntled. Nobody likes to be mistreated, particularly college students paying high fees to attend a college.
When bureaucrats within college administration, the transcript office, and the student union treat college students disrespectfully rather than serving them gladly, it frustrates college students and tells them the college or university does not care about them.
When colleges treat their students like another number, eventually students opt for a different approach to pursue their career. Students like to be respected too and not made to stand in line excessively to collect documents, books, parking decals and trivial things that to them are meaningless.
2. College students get angry at being nickled and dimed by colleges.
College students quite frankly don't like paying high tuition fees to attend college, only to later by charged for parking, and than get ticketed for parking in the wrong place when they were running late to class and they was inadequate parking to begin with.
Let's face the facts. Professors themselves on many college campuses have a hard time finding a place to park. Yet colleges continue to profit by issuing parking tickets. Making students pay $50 to $100 a semester to park is bad enough. Colleges run their parking lots like Disney World, Sea World, and Universal Studios in Orlando, profiting handsomely along the way.
Even worse is when the college intentionally and purposefully pursues issuing parking tickets night and day to collect more revenue for the college. Robbing Peter (or your college students who are already challenged financially) to pay Paul (this being the college) doesn't endear college students to the academic institution and university. On the contrary, it makes the burning mad and eventually mad enough to consider attending college elsewhere.
3. College students get demoralized when they approach their professor for help and the professor doesn't give them the time of day, nor an adequate explanation for their problem.
Professors at colleges and universities just working to further their career, collect a paycheck, and publish their latest dissertation or book who don't give students the time of day leave students feeling demoralized when they are struggling with a class.
Class assignments and college level material comes easier for some students than others. Therefore when a student is struggling and needs some additional time or help, the professor should make himself or herself available to help the student.
Unfortunately many times nowadays college professors just want to communicate via email, that is if they even check their email and reply in time to help the struggling student and answer their questions. Online forums are another method by which professors try to punt and shun students in need of help.
What colleges fail to realize however is students go to college for hands on instruction and interaction with professors, not to be alienated through an online course or partial net based course that keeps professors and college students at arms length.
4. Financial challenges and constraints cause students to withdraw from college.
Colleges aren't free and students cannot always obtain financial aid. Scholarships are wonderful if a student can get one to go to college, but many students are forced to work a part-time job to survive financially and put themselves through college.
I know I worked a part-time job to put myself through college and rode a bicycle to and from school and work. The sacrifices I made to complete my college education were many.
With the current economic downturn and rising unemployment level, many college students are being laid off from part-time jobs and struggling financially to sustain themselves and pay for their college education.
5. Students withdraw from college when they don't feel socially connected.
A solid social life wherein a student feels connected to other students on his or her college campus is vital to ensure their success. Emotional support and the comradery of friends who understand them and their struggles empower students to persevere with their college education.
When student advisors, deans, and college administration fail to account for and proactively facilitate the necessary social element that sustains students' morale, they do themselves and their college a great disservice. Undeniably and undoubtedly, college students want to feel connected and a part of something larger than themselves. Yet it is not a connection to an academic institution per say that they desire as much as it is to their fellow students journeying with them through this season of college life.
Successful colleges therefore don't just suggest and make social activities and associations available for students, but proactively facilitate and incorporate this into their college's approach to education early on. By doing so, successful colleges provide every student, including those more shy students with less social initiative the opportunity to be actively engaged and socially interact with other students. This opens the door for meaningful interaction, communication, and the establishing of meaningful friendships among college students on campus. Without such students just fall through the cracks socially, tend to become isolated, and often disappear as they become disillusioned with the whole college experience.
These five reasons are the biggest reasons retention efforts among college students are not succeeding and students are withdrawing from college.
The good news is students and professionals desire to attend college. Most of us value and uphold education. The struggles along the way en route to obtaining a college education and further professional development however when a student steps on a college campus can be irritating and downright frustrating.
Retention coordinators and specialists on college campuses therefore need to urgently and wholeheartedly attend to these matters lest they be the next ones standing in the unemployment line, when college students walk out and say they have had enough.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership & overcoming adversity!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.
Paul's 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor's Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.
After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Paul's academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.
A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul's humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.
As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.
http:///www.PaulFDavis.com
Academic Success: College Student Success Secrets, Make Better College Grades & Graduate W/ Honor
When I came home from my 6th grade science class with a D on my progress report, my father decided to take out the belt and apply some pressure to my backside to increase understanding up above.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about academic success secrets and breakthrough leadership!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
My father rarely had to spank me, because I quickly and respectfully responded. I didn't particular enjoy being beaten. Nevertheless somehow it did the trick and compelled me to learn and master academic success.
How farther ahead I would have been had a parent or teacher actually taken the time to sit down with me and teach me proper study habits. Unfortunately, I can honestly say that throughout my entire academic years in elementary school, middle school, high school, college, Bible school, and graduate school nobody... that is right... absolutely nobody ever bothered to teach students how to make better grades, excel academically, and achieve academic success.
Yet schools, colleges, and parents are quick to discipline students who fail below average and don't make the desirable grades in school. Ironically, educators who think themselves to be so wise rarely think past their nose to teach students how to learn, process information, memorize vital info for tests, and strategically take tests with success in mind.
Therefore it should be no surprise so many fail and become disenchanted with the educational system as a whole. Those who master it tend to come out as cookie-cutter conformists who on occasion rough up and look down upon anybody who does not fit the educational mold.
As for me however, I was the class clown, a non-conformist, who was equally intelligent and yes, very sarcastic. I liked to ask my teachers, instructors, and professors the hard and challenging questions, the ones most students wanted to ask, but didn't have the guts to do so.
Hence evolved my academic success secrets unbeknownst to me.
1. Cultivate intellectual curiosity and don't be afraid to ask the hard questions.
When you are genuinely and creatively thinking, unique and hard questions will arise to challenge the status quo. This is how every major breakthrough historically has occurred for humanity from Thomas Edison to Albert Einstein; Benjamin Franklin to Henry Ford; the Wright brothers to Bill Gates.
When most said not so, these men said why not? When others laughed and scorned them for their creative ideas, they masterminded their brilliance and successfully acted upon their ideas to transform life as we know it (and make millions and billions of dollars in the process).
2. Respect and uphold your teachers / educators / professors, even when you disagree with them and have to swallow your pride.
No matter what anybody tells you, educators have egos just like anybody else. In fact, perhaps moreso. They like to be right and have the power via the grades they give you, to tell you you're wrong.
Keep in mind most educators are specialists, which means they often think only in terms of their subject and not much more. This can make them rigid and frigid by nature if they are not careful. Nevertheless if you want to curry favor with them and make the grades you desire, you need them on your side and want to be careful not to rub them the wrong way. That being said, beware also of over doing it and coming across as if you are trying to patronize them.
3. Be steady, respectful, consistent, and diligent in doing your work daily.
Educators like disciplined students who obey instructions, follow rules, and complete assigned tasks. Despite the motivation (and some speculate they like to feel powerful and tell you what to do), as a college student you must trust the academic process.
Remember the karate kid (movie) did not understand why he was painting fence and waxing cars, when he had asked his dojo master to teach him martial arts.
4. Trust the process and be patient.
When he finally exploded and couldn't endure the hard work (what he seemed to be cruel labor) any longer, the "karate kid's" mentor revealed to him how each movement in the painting and car waxing applied to the martial arts he was teaching him. These moves were just hidden beneath the laborious work he was performing.
Suddenly the light bulb came on for the karate kid and he embraced the teaching methodology of his master. College students often easily anger at their professors and advisors, often wondering and questioning what the point is of many classes and required curriculum. Nevertheless when you put it all together collectively, once these disciplines are fully learned, you have a mighty foundation upon which to stand upon as you enter your academic discipline and career of choice.
5. Discover what type learner you are.
We all process information differently: some visually, others audibly, than some kinesthetically.
Knowing your learning style will enable you to study adequately accordingly as you adjust your approach to processing information and knowledge.
Whenever I study, I like to read the material out loud (as did President Abraham Lincoln) to introduce the material to me audibly as well as visually. I discovered the more senses I can get fully engrossed in the material, the more likely it is I will learn and remember it.
This proved to be true as I went in 6th grade from being a D student to scoring a 100% on my next two science exams in which I had to locate all of the bones of the body and spell each correctly.
As I buried myself in the anatomy book, being but 10 years old in the sixth grade, I visually processed the location of the bones of the body. Thereafter I covered the names of these bones with a piece of paper and started quiz myself.
Then I verbally sounded out each bone by name as I progressively memorized each. It took some time, but one by one, I eventually learned each bone by name. Next I would repeat the same process when it came to spelling these bones correctly.
By merging auditory and visual learning together simultaneously, I mastered and aced that science test and earned the most improved student award that year for my science teacher.
When my father years later would try the belt on my younger brother to compel him to improve his grades, it didn't work. Hence what made the difference was my heartfelt commitment to education, personal improvement, and pain avoidance.
Most importantly however, what drove my academic success and sudden transformation was the discovery of how to process, communicate, and retain information. Somehow serendipitously (or by way of the fear of survival and avoidance of the belt) I figured out how to drive home meaningful information into my brain until I remembered it.
6. Celebrate your success.
When you succeed academically, be sure to reward yourself. My father took great pride in my success and began taking me to breakfast every morning before school. It became a tradition of ours and a time for us to have father & son heartfelt talks.
Find some way therefore to celebrate yourself after you have worked hard and succeeded academically. Studying is hard work and afterward you need some form of relief and personal enjoyment.
When I took the four hour law school admissions test, I was ready to go to the beach afterward. I didn't want to see or look at a book. Therefore after you work and study hard, reward yourself, and celebrate your success.
7. Make friends with intelligent people.
Show me your friends and I will show you your future.
Birds of a feather flock together. Therefore if you want to be bright, associate with others who are more bright than you. They will teach you things. You will hear their conversation and discover their intellectual pursuits, while learning how they process information to achieve academic success.
Improving your friends, choosing those who don't curse and use more intellectual language, will force you to become more well versed and skillful at communication. Undoubtedly this will advance you greatly academically and in the future professionally. Communication is a vital component and key to success in any field.
Know that some things are not taught, but rather caught through conversation and observation as you participate in meaningful interactions with high caliber people.
Put these 7 success secrets to work for you and you will be a college student on your way to great success and extraordinary achievement.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about academic success secrets and breakthrough leadership!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.
Paul's 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor's Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.
After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Paul's academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul builds bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.
A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul's humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.
As a former high-school senior class English and ESOL teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker who has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, Paul greatly appeals to international students throughout the world.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.
http:///www.PaulFDavis.com
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about academic success secrets and breakthrough leadership!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
My father rarely had to spank me, because I quickly and respectfully responded. I didn't particular enjoy being beaten. Nevertheless somehow it did the trick and compelled me to learn and master academic success.
How farther ahead I would have been had a parent or teacher actually taken the time to sit down with me and teach me proper study habits. Unfortunately, I can honestly say that throughout my entire academic years in elementary school, middle school, high school, college, Bible school, and graduate school nobody... that is right... absolutely nobody ever bothered to teach students how to make better grades, excel academically, and achieve academic success.
Yet schools, colleges, and parents are quick to discipline students who fail below average and don't make the desirable grades in school. Ironically, educators who think themselves to be so wise rarely think past their nose to teach students how to learn, process information, memorize vital info for tests, and strategically take tests with success in mind.
Therefore it should be no surprise so many fail and become disenchanted with the educational system as a whole. Those who master it tend to come out as cookie-cutter conformists who on occasion rough up and look down upon anybody who does not fit the educational mold.
As for me however, I was the class clown, a non-conformist, who was equally intelligent and yes, very sarcastic. I liked to ask my teachers, instructors, and professors the hard and challenging questions, the ones most students wanted to ask, but didn't have the guts to do so.
Hence evolved my academic success secrets unbeknownst to me.
1. Cultivate intellectual curiosity and don't be afraid to ask the hard questions.
When you are genuinely and creatively thinking, unique and hard questions will arise to challenge the status quo. This is how every major breakthrough historically has occurred for humanity from Thomas Edison to Albert Einstein; Benjamin Franklin to Henry Ford; the Wright brothers to Bill Gates.
When most said not so, these men said why not? When others laughed and scorned them for their creative ideas, they masterminded their brilliance and successfully acted upon their ideas to transform life as we know it (and make millions and billions of dollars in the process).
2. Respect and uphold your teachers / educators / professors, even when you disagree with them and have to swallow your pride.
No matter what anybody tells you, educators have egos just like anybody else. In fact, perhaps moreso. They like to be right and have the power via the grades they give you, to tell you you're wrong.
Keep in mind most educators are specialists, which means they often think only in terms of their subject and not much more. This can make them rigid and frigid by nature if they are not careful. Nevertheless if you want to curry favor with them and make the grades you desire, you need them on your side and want to be careful not to rub them the wrong way. That being said, beware also of over doing it and coming across as if you are trying to patronize them.
3. Be steady, respectful, consistent, and diligent in doing your work daily.
Educators like disciplined students who obey instructions, follow rules, and complete assigned tasks. Despite the motivation (and some speculate they like to feel powerful and tell you what to do), as a college student you must trust the academic process.
Remember the karate kid (movie) did not understand why he was painting fence and waxing cars, when he had asked his dojo master to teach him martial arts.
4. Trust the process and be patient.
When he finally exploded and couldn't endure the hard work (what he seemed to be cruel labor) any longer, the "karate kid's" mentor revealed to him how each movement in the painting and car waxing applied to the martial arts he was teaching him. These moves were just hidden beneath the laborious work he was performing.
Suddenly the light bulb came on for the karate kid and he embraced the teaching methodology of his master. College students often easily anger at their professors and advisors, often wondering and questioning what the point is of many classes and required curriculum. Nevertheless when you put it all together collectively, once these disciplines are fully learned, you have a mighty foundation upon which to stand upon as you enter your academic discipline and career of choice.
5. Discover what type learner you are.
We all process information differently: some visually, others audibly, than some kinesthetically.
Knowing your learning style will enable you to study adequately accordingly as you adjust your approach to processing information and knowledge.
Whenever I study, I like to read the material out loud (as did President Abraham Lincoln) to introduce the material to me audibly as well as visually. I discovered the more senses I can get fully engrossed in the material, the more likely it is I will learn and remember it.
This proved to be true as I went in 6th grade from being a D student to scoring a 100% on my next two science exams in which I had to locate all of the bones of the body and spell each correctly.
As I buried myself in the anatomy book, being but 10 years old in the sixth grade, I visually processed the location of the bones of the body. Thereafter I covered the names of these bones with a piece of paper and started quiz myself.
Then I verbally sounded out each bone by name as I progressively memorized each. It took some time, but one by one, I eventually learned each bone by name. Next I would repeat the same process when it came to spelling these bones correctly.
By merging auditory and visual learning together simultaneously, I mastered and aced that science test and earned the most improved student award that year for my science teacher.
When my father years later would try the belt on my younger brother to compel him to improve his grades, it didn't work. Hence what made the difference was my heartfelt commitment to education, personal improvement, and pain avoidance.
Most importantly however, what drove my academic success and sudden transformation was the discovery of how to process, communicate, and retain information. Somehow serendipitously (or by way of the fear of survival and avoidance of the belt) I figured out how to drive home meaningful information into my brain until I remembered it.
6. Celebrate your success.
When you succeed academically, be sure to reward yourself. My father took great pride in my success and began taking me to breakfast every morning before school. It became a tradition of ours and a time for us to have father & son heartfelt talks.
Find some way therefore to celebrate yourself after you have worked hard and succeeded academically. Studying is hard work and afterward you need some form of relief and personal enjoyment.
When I took the four hour law school admissions test, I was ready to go to the beach afterward. I didn't want to see or look at a book. Therefore after you work and study hard, reward yourself, and celebrate your success.
7. Make friends with intelligent people.
Show me your friends and I will show you your future.
Birds of a feather flock together. Therefore if you want to be bright, associate with others who are more bright than you. They will teach you things. You will hear their conversation and discover their intellectual pursuits, while learning how they process information to achieve academic success.
Improving your friends, choosing those who don't curse and use more intellectual language, will force you to become more well versed and skillful at communication. Undoubtedly this will advance you greatly academically and in the future professionally. Communication is a vital component and key to success in any field.
Know that some things are not taught, but rather caught through conversation and observation as you participate in meaningful interactions with high caliber people.
Put these 7 success secrets to work for you and you will be a college student on your way to great success and extraordinary achievement.
Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about academic success secrets and breakthrough leadership!
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
407-967-7553
Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.
Paul's 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor's Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.
After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Paul's academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul builds bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.
A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul's humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.
As a former high-school senior class English and ESOL teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker who has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, Paul greatly appeals to international students throughout the world.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.
http:///www.PaulFDavis.com
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