Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Dealing with Difficult People Speaker - Handling the Martyr

Among the many difficult people to deal with in life is the martyr. The martyr likes to commit to things, but then when the time comes to fulfill will complain and act like it is a death sentence.

"I never should have agreed to this."

"I can't believe I signed up for this."

This saga goes on and on! Yet it was they who verbalized their desire to do something - for whatever reason.

However instead of just shutting up and doing it, they like to play the martyr along the way to ensure they get the utmost recognition.

Don't be overwhelmed by the drama martyrs try to create. Just go about your daily life as normal and get out of the way. Return when the coast is clear and the complaining and whining has subsided.

Don't listen to the martyr's incessant complaining and whining. If you do, the martyr's complaints will intensify and you will become their go-to-guy the next time they want to complain.

Save yourself the trouble and stay clear of the martyr when they are emotionally bleeding. Go to the bathroom. Get out of the house. Go to the gym. Attend to an appointment outside the office.

Give the martyr space to die alone. LOL - worldwide speaker and life-changing author of 17 books including "Healthy Relationships"

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